Overcoming Self-Doubt


Now this title is a little misleading, but bear with me. I am so so SOOO far away for conquering self-doubt. I mean… it’s quite the process, people! My struggle with self-doubt will probably never be over until I am maybe in a walker… or maybe dead. Despite this I figured I would share a bit about my journey so here we go. 

As a small business owner, my days usually look quite different. My daily schedule changes, depending on the projects I'm tackling. 

Some days I leap out of bed like I just spotted a really cute bulldog. You know the feeling. I'm bright, expectant and ready to take on the world.

Other days, if I'm between jobs or am overwhelmed by assignments, I may feel down in the dumps. On those days, I try to remember we are in this together. Everyone feels inadequate or has self-doubt at one time or another. 

The beauty in this is we can overcome these down-in-the-dumps feelings by simply remembering this is normal! We all experience ups and downs. We can learn from down times, too.   

Some of the best growth has happened (especially for me) during my rainy (or sometimes even stormy!) days.  

Rainy days or cute dog-spotting days. We can get through anything once we realize we are not alone.

This concept has not been an easy one of me to grasp. I feel like the way the world yells out most of the time is to play a comparison game. The ole’ do or die speech. I suppose this much can be true from time to time—but not all. Sometimes I find that when I am still I feel the most content. Perhaps putting the stop sign up in our own lives-maybe just a little at a time at first- is really the best medicine for Self-Doubt. 

To be continued…

//  Top: Madewell Jeans: NYDJ Shoes: Bryr Clogs Bag: Anne Klein 

+ photos by Kat Harris

a bit on love...

I've learned a lot about unconditional love lately. Sharing my life with my precious husband has taught me love is a choice, a choice we make every day. 

Knowing love is a choice and not some fleeting feeling can be very empowering. We may not always feel like loving, but we can certainly choose to love.  After feelings fade, love can continue. My parents and grandparents have shown me the joy of making a love choice for life. 

Life will never be perfect. We shouldn't expect people to be either. The most blessed thing we can do is to love without expecting anything in return.  

Our friends, family, and spouses need our love and understanding. I need love and understanding! To put it frankly, I'm not always loveable!

One of my favorite verses starts out: Love is faithful. Love is kind. Love is not selfish. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Boy, I could just camp on these sentences and my love journey would take a lifetime!

I'm at the beginning of this journey and stumbling a bit along the way, but I pray I can love as I want to be loved, with grace and forgiveness.

Let's choose to love. Let's hold hands and walk together on this journey. Let me know how your walk is going. I'll share my humble stumbles and love lessons along the way!

+ photos above by the very talented Katherine Joy Photography.

This Post is created in conjunction with the ladies of The Refined Collective. Be sure and read the other articles on love today by: Go Fit Jo,  Jackie V. ,The Refined WomanTonyha Kae, and Tutti del Monte.  Also, join us over on instagram today under #therefinedcollective to see what everyone else has to say about love.

Travel Bug.


I bought some records from a Montauk shop called Intersleeve last weekend. I've been playing these new gems every chance I get. I'm rockin' the tunes in the morning when I have a few seconds to spare while making coffee or writing one more email (ugh! lol).

One of my records is from an artist I love, Francoise Hardy. I get a lot of my styling inspiration from her. Along with her classic style, however, I've fallen in love with her music. It transports me straight to a dreamy Paris cafe.

With all my new records, music has become the answer to my travel bug. I'm flying on the wings of a song. That's pretty rad!

My music is on and I'm dreaming of a trip to enjoy a cheese plate at my favorite Paris cafe. Or... perhaps sampling some ceviche on a tropical beach somewhere.

I'm transported to another destination entirely by the power of music. That's travel made easy... and cheap!

Do you have the travel bug? Where are you going? How are you getting there?

Happy travels to you whether you're jetting to a destination or just musically dreaming of one in your apartment.


-photo one: Paris, France photo two: Little Gasparilla Island , photo three: Santorini , Greece,  photo four: The Maldives