Valentine's Day Q&A
It’s that time of year, folks!
Yes: It’s a question and answer game all about LOVE (and yada yada yada!)
Let’s get this awkward ball rolling. To be fair, love and personal relationships are never easy to talk about. You've sent me some questions about my relationship with Aaron. Some questions are light. Some are heavy.
I'll answer a few now.
Let me start with a little disclaimer: I am not perfect. Aaron is not perfect. Our relationship and marriage are far from perfect. There. I just wanted to get all that jazz out there before hand.
Now, let’s get on with the love-n-stuff:
1. How did you and Aaron meet?
Technically, we met at a rooftop barbecue in Brooklyn. I know, right: cue the hipster card. I was at a very funny time in my life when I wasn't looking for anything serious. Ok...so, I was in a bit of a crazy phase.
We met and Aaron gave me his number. He didn't hear from me for a month. What was going on for that month? I was busy working at two jobs and juggling NYC night life. On one of those wild nights, I accidentally left my phone in a taxi.
Phone-less and a bit upset, I suddenly recalled the man I met on the rooftop. He had said he could show me some cool record stores in Brooklyn. Facebook messaging was my only option. I asked him if he wanted to hang.
When I was with Aaron, adventures felt different in a crazy way...a good way...a forever way. Two years later we were engaged. The rest is history.
2. What made you guys want to have your wedding in Iceland?
Goodness. That was a rather last minute decision. Honestly, the whole kitten caboodle of planning a wedding really got to me. We got engaged in Paris. I put off wedding planning for a long time because it scared the heck out of me.
Sure, I wanted to marry Aaron, but I wasn't so keen on all the extra jazz. I started planning something that didn't feel much like me. One day, we just decided to throw the idea of a traditional wedding out.
We loved Iceland. Why not get married there? For the first time we felt truly content and joyful about wedding planning. The spontaneity felt like us.
3. How do you resolve conflicts after fighting?
Apologizing to the party you hurt is always a must. I love to write a note to Aaron when I’ve done something wrong. Notes and letters are truly a lost art in marriage.
When there's conflict or disagreement, I find you often just have to step back and say: It’s not all about me. It’s about us. We need to get centered again. It's not always about winning or being right.
I say do anything to get your relationship back on track: write a special note, give an extra kiss right on the smakaroo or maybe even dance a sexy dance (haha!). It’s all worth it in the end and (did I mention?) all this can lead to laughter and fun?! Laughter is important to a relationship.
4. What’s your favorite attribute of each other:
Aaron’s for Brynn: I love how Brynn loves her family. It’s been great getting to see how she interacts with her mom, dad, sisters, grandparents, and everyone else. I know that if she loves me even half as much as she loves them, then I’m in good hands.
Brynn’s for Aaron: Aaron has the greatest optimism and coolness under pressure. Sometimes, when I feel like things are falling apart, Aaron analyzes the situation and can almost always fix it! I tend to sometimes freeze under pressure, but I know Aaron always has everything under control. I don’t know what I would do without his optimism and wisdom!
5. Did you guys have a song? And, if so, what is it?
Yes, we do! "All The Way" by Frank Sinatra. This song really speaks about depths in our relationship. The first time I heard it, I cried. It made me think of us. I love the lyrics:
“Who knows where the road will lead us?
Only a fool would say
But if you'll let me love you
It's for sure I'm gonna love you
All the way”